Carl Jung and the Psychology of the Man-Child

To my only son, Toby William, somewhere in Britain... Possibly Nowhere...

 Ayup Toby. The next article I am posting discusses some of Karl Jung's  Ideas. I have never studied this kind of stuff, not in a purely academic way. It is surprising to me that my own notions,formed from personal experience and observation are congruent with his."Stuff Iz Sed" confirmed in writing by respected high table learned experts. Before we lived Beyond the Nook of Cranny, the locals referred to you as the "Man from Tir Na Nog". I called it living in teenage wasteland. You were at an age that should have found you well past that condition. Closer at least to coping with the responsabilities  of adult manhood. You appeared to prefer the act of being a flying monkey in service to the malignant action of my former wife. The barriers against learning anything from me,your caring dad were too well established. What was the point of my trying? You may work out for yourself. In many ways you acted as a saboteur to the peace and well being of my domestic life.  I am not the only one caused harm or hurt by your insensitivity. We all have the ability to change the course of our lives. Recognising the trail of trash we leave behind us is our personal responsibility to clear up. As Jordan Peterson might say,"tidy your room" I'd say "Clean it first". Best not shove your life's learning into a Clutterbox and forget the point of your lessons. They are not academic. You may listen to the YT posting anytime, I hope you get some practical message from it.  Saves you t-he arduous trouble of trying to remember what your horrible father tried to communicate. Reply or not, as you will.  My words have always been well meant.. I close, in the hope of your improvement. Get Well Soon. Dad.

When Your Son or Daughter is a Narcissist!

To my only daughter, Emma Grace, somewhere in Lisbon...

Ayup Emma.  I haven't forwarded the letter dated 19 October 2010 from your mother to me, yet. It will be forthcoming.I have just been wondering when you are going to address the serious issue of false accusation of sexual abuse against your father. If the matter can't be dealt with discretely in private, little option I have but to bring the subject into the public domain. Would I dare? Yes I would. Just these few lines will undoubtably draw interest, so many scummy mind sets desperate for vicarious stimulation. All will profess disapproval "shock/ horror"  whilst indulging themselves in the the more sordid of intellectual activity.
The matter needs sorting Emma. So what's the story behind the bullshit?No "probablies" or "plausablies" please. Actuality is the only way forward if you want to leave the subject behind you.
I will be posting another YT video about narcissistic abuse. I will be bring up the subject regularly. Elder abuse also.
My happy home garden pictures are closer to my liking. The other sad stuff is there to try and provoke an honest moral response. Talk about it with your co conspirators.   Needs must.
I will write again soon. Your loving Father.

WOW! Romania, What's happening there?...

55 people all at the same time, no idea why they would all peruse this blog "en bloc". I would appreciate an honest factual explanation .Anyone out there prepared to make polite comment. Please do.
Meanwhile, in the " Izdom of Iz", Réglisse the ram gets a haircut, Dress rehearsal for the end of Lock down, then back to te garden and a peep at the prep  in the round house project, rescued from the abyss of forgetfulness.

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Fortune Favours the Brave...

 It doesn't take long before the investment of a little work starts paying a dividend... A modest beginning in the new field started late  in the season.  My first visit to Anne-Sophie's "start up" project.  It makes more sense than screaming abuse at the government or pulling down statues. beats hands down, queuing for aid at the charity food banks, or waiting for markets and shops to reopen.
Independent autonamous self determined initiative, voluntary communitarian action is an encouragement to others. There is space enough here for more families to "have a go" during these crisis ridden times, however, a permanent commitment to the common cause of an agrarian rennaissance  is essential.  Domestic horticulture  over agribusiness. We are happy to assist any who lack the experience or self confidence to make a start.

Fallow ground, newly broken, fed on nothing but the grass roots and mulched with the hay.

Our method works better than waiting for the cheque in the post. Sweetcorn coco beans ,a nice little crop of salad, sunflowers and other good stuff, I can't remember what.  It's a small patch but it illustrates a point.

 This last week has been wet , onions planted late have started to pick up. The bulbs have started to swell at last. The ground is mulched with hay to keep the moisture in the ground, shading roots from the heat of the sun.  "Roots in the cool, heads in the sun." A good maxim to follow.

 Potatoes pioneered this little square. The newly cultivated earth is now aerated and weed free, . The soil level is sixinches higher perfect for carrots.  Peas in flower  bottom left.

The late potatoes look healthy enough. A great comfort over the winter. Avoiding whinging protests around the dining table."Shut your mouth and chew your food."

 Mudskool students get a "heads up" in the never ending learning curve. Happy helpers enjoy their lessons. It's not academic.

That's not a potato...

That's a potato...

To Emma Grace Godden, somewhere in Lisbon, Portugal. It's Midsummer Day, 2020.

Hello daughter. I've just been in a self indulgent revery. Wading through past regrets, wallowing pensively in the "would have been good" moments I wished We could have shared. I still hope for a happy ending to an illogically tragic tale of misguided loyalties.  I hear you have change your place of employment. A resturaunt/bar, with "proper" musicians, no less. Good luck with that .  Heard too that you have deleted your Facebook site.I can't knock you for that. I dumped mine within weeks  when I discovered how much anti social mischief  it often causes.
It's a a blazing hot afternoon  following heavy deluge of rain this morning. My roundhouse construction is re awakened. I will light a fire in what will be the permant fireplace. I have much rock to move, kind of exciting really. The life that is surrounding the stones is the worthy profit from my labour. No walls nor roof nor shady verandah as yet ,but if you've a want or the will you may follow the progress here.  Failing that, drop in if you are passing this way. The door is always open,and I am always in. As you like. Bring a chaperon if you feel insecure about an estranged encounter. Talk about it with a trusted friend.
There are no new garden photos today. I will leave you with a splash of seasonal colour from Anne-Sophie's current collection..

Enjoy the day... Share the joy. All love,your dad.

Just wondering about Corona virus "Superspreaders"... plus images of a better future...

 A number of years ago,two decades at least, so I believe, Sweden banned the use of hot air hand dryers commonly found in publicly accessable buildings, bars, hospitals schools,  sports facilities and the like.The devises were considered a health risk , aiding the transmission of both bacteria  and the eggs of parasitic worms aerobically. Public rest rooms were considered a major source of infection.  Fair play to the Swedes. Remembering that little detail of obscure news content from way back in the day caused me to wonder. How many"modernised",  public facilities world wide  still use hot air hand drying machines. Given that several years after hearing about the Swedish ban, nigh on every facility in U.K. that used them before the discovery of the high risk still were seen to be using them long after the the important detail had become ,to my view at least, common knowledge.  Establishments that still hang on to the spurrious convenience of the old technology would be well advised to upgrade.  Check yourselves out America. I believe  a major suspicion in the prolonged COVID 19 crisis outlasting the rest of the "first world" may well be pinned on those innocent looking gadgets. The Corona virus is spread along with several other illnesses, aerobically. Just wondering, who's bothered to notice?


 The latest pictures of our own health plan ,avoiding this Solar minimum, the indignity of joining the food queues or worse, starving to death. There is no escaping the fact of food shortages or major price increases. Last year and this have been disasterous for large scale commercial growers worldwide. Zoom in and nosey around; you're welcome.

 I lifted my Garlic today. It will need to dry. I'll be digging up a few new potatoes once this bit of keyboard stabbing is done.

It's a subject that needs greater understanding...

 Xenophobia needs to be put on an equal footing with the overworked "racism".I guess I put myself in the category of "enigmatic other".  Before I discovered the internet and it's many channels dealing with the subject I was already permanently damaged , walking wounded.I guess I was a perfect  target for a narcissistic take over of my life's progress. There's a lot of it about. the common factor shared with the post modern femininism and the resurgence of unreconstructed neoliberal colonial attitudes. It's all one to me.  I had no warning nor protection from the insiduous malignancy.  It has taken many years since my escape from the threesome ring of the complex personality disorder of my former family. They may deal with their own deficiencies now. A warning to the world, however, they believe they can do no wrong.
The offspring of my former marriage may not be called my children,they are closer to midlife crisis than the innocence of childhood. I will continue to post the occasional YT articles as I find relevant. I don't believe they will produce any kind of epiphany in the lives of my self serving kin.  I am worn thin trying to rectify a deep rooted problem , my words failed me in my purpose.  Treated as the ramblings of a crazy man."incoherent" to my mind means they didn't understand me. Their loss. the empath moved on. The threesome ring called itself "the family", I was only the dad. deliberately alienated in service to the sole undue advantage of the three.Merely "the man who did the work."
 The "work" remains on going,  they have plenty of information on the internet that may help them unravel the toxic mysteries of their own condition  they are birds of a different feather to me. I work now for the sole benefit of my second marriage. The fog has cleared, it wont stop me from writing and collating my experience of abuse perpetrated by my former narcissistc threesome "family".  They have a right of reply. Details of fact as I may publish from my own painful past can be substantiated by documentary evidence.  I still search for the means for moral resolution and closure.  A happy ending to the story,perhaps a naive and forlorn hope. Regardless of outcome exposure of the problems I have encounted may prove beneficial to others wishing to avoid the potential damage in their own lives.  The threesome family still subscribe to the malignant complexity, I dare say they wouldn't like it commonly known.It's not my game, I feel no compunction to observe or obey the compromising terms and conditions of their ever shifting self absolving  rules.

Meanwhile , here's a dip into a subject more to my liking:

 

Comment as you like or want, , I am still homeward bound. Not yet complete but still on track. I will be continuing with my construction project. Building on the foundations of historic ruin. Interesting results are gauranteed...

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Perfect leaf...

In Iz Garden...

 I have just finished planting the first of this season's leeks. The Mache salad had gone to seed , the straw was stripped back and used as a composting mulch , the plants that grow self seeded , from about September on through winter add welcome fresh salad, without need of cloche or fleece protection. A real friend. The leek seedlings are first for harvest. the top "feather" leaves are cut of to reduduce transpiration. The roots are trimmed so there is no impedence putting them to the bottom- most part of a predibbed hole. The ground was first redug to airate it then enriched with old well rotten composted horse manure. Three rows of leeks,twenty nine in all. A pretty sight to my eyes. I do like to eat em.

  I will puddle them in during the evening one can of water after planting will keep them fresh till then. Seven thirty it is .

It's the Fourth of June, Emma's Birthday.Wish you were here.

Beetroot and strawberries last of the foxgloves bowing over. Schallots to the right opportunist mullien getting away with it in the distance. A small patch of carrots to the left.

Onionsin a block. Peas on the right supported by sticks. Small peach tree in the background.

Maize and runner beans work well together.  Successive rows of coco beans. Aubergine plant greening up well. A row of Swiss Chard Some self sown rogue lettuce in the background.

More Coco beans, it's a favorite. Maize and squash on the left.

What's in here? From the leftstrawberries tomato plants inter planted with basil  and french marigolds,chinese cabbage. A row of Brussel sprouts,A row of chilli and some capsicum,on the right of the bed yet another row of coco beans.

Runner beans Maize and squash, potatoes hiding in the background.

 Guess!....

Hollyhock...

Acanthus...